How to Get Over Someone

August 30, 2019 by  
Filed under When Relationships Go Bad

Make it stop. We’ve all been there after a breakup, that confusing place where we aren’t sure where we begin and the relationship ended. How do we get that person out of our head? Breakups don’t feel good. Learning how to get over someone is the first step toward reclaiming your personal power and living well—because living well truly is the best revenge.

What Is a Breakup?

couple at the sea shore breaking up

Photo by Eric Ward on Unsplash

Okay, if you are here, you are looking for information about how to get over someone so you don’t really need me to tell you what a breakup is.

That heavy-hanging heart in your chest and the racing brain that won’t stop cycling over what went wrong (and possibly a heaping mound of tissues) speak for themselves. A breakup is when something that was once a big part of your world comes crashing down. A breakup feels a lot like a civil war.

Relationships are unions. When we open ourselves up to another person, we expose all the gooey vulnerable parts that are typically hidden from the outside world. In high-functioning relationships, this mutual exchange, or symbiosis if you will, of inner worlds creates a harmonious environment for the union to flourish in.

VULNERABILITY

CONFLICT

MASKS AND UNHEALTHY COMPROMISE

AUTHENTICITY 

How to Get Over Someone

We humans are social beasts. Our relationships add meaning to our lives. We feel it when someone leaves our life. It’s normal and healthy to grieve the passing of a life chapter. Knowing a few key tips on how to get over someone can cushion the fall and expedite the grieving process.

THE ESSENTIAL CONFRONTATION

ADDRESS THE GAPING HOLE

Go No Contact

Woman dialing a number through her phone

This step is easier for some than others, but it’s a crucial part of getting over someone. Going no contact isn’t a ploy to get someone back (although that sometimes works), it’s the best recovery strategy you have in your artillery.

DON’T PROLONG YOUR PAIN

HOW TO GO NO CONTACT

HOW LONG FOR NO CONTACT?

TAKE YOUR POWER BACK

Conclusion

Broken Paper heart floating in the air using a tail

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Whether it feels like it at first, a breakup is a high-five from the universe. Two people have to be on the same page to form a healthy relationship. If one or both people aren’t getting their needs met, the relationship isn’t working. No one deserves to live in a state of conflict, anxiety, or hostility.

Now that you know how to get over someone, consider all the free space it opens up in your life. You can reconnect with yourself and rediscover what makes you tick.

By owning your life you step up onto a mountain of strength and security. The people who are most compatible with you are the people who will value you for who you are. You’ll have no problem spotting a compatible mate from your newfound mountain of awesome; just look straight ahead (Don’t leave the universe hanging). 

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