How To Be A Good Boyfriend According To Women?

December 1, 2018 by  
Filed under Dating Tips, Winning The 'Dating Game'

Couple in the beach

​Women may say that they are simple and straightforward about what they want in a relationship. However, some things a guy is just going to have to know without asking, regarding being a good boyfriend.

Similar to men, women will secretly test the guy they are dating to see if they are indeed quality boyfriend material. It is essential that men pay attention to body language and other unspoken cues.

Avoid the corny and overused pick up lines that will make her cringe, and put the information in this article to good use. If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, you have to go beyond the expected qualities that you should possess.

  • ​You should be a good listener and conversationalist
  • ​You should know how to make her laugh, surprise her, and be in touch with intuition
  • ​It is better to be a good boyfriend than strive to be a perfect boyfriend

​Honestly, when it comes to learning how to be a good boyfriend, men need to realize that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Every woman and relationship is different,  and there are specific nuances that can make things work out smoothly.

It is better than men learn about essential things that they should be doing more or less of, and naturally integrating into their dating behaviors.

Valuing Friendship As A Foundation

Male and Female Toy Keychain

​When it comes to being a boyfriend, too often, people forget that you have to be a friend first. Men should enjoy connecting to their date over shared likes and dislikes, give breathing room when needed,
and not try too hard.

Also, to be a good boyfriend, it is essential to respect the friends that a girlfriend always has.  Yes, men may not always get along perfectly with a girlfriend's friends. However, men must realize that a woman will trust
and consider her longtime friend's opinions about you and the relationship, so play nice.

To learn how to be a good boyfriend, it is essential to learn how to deal with a girlfriend's friends if there are
problems. Namely, a girlfriend's friends may love talking crap about the love interest, go out of their way to cause problems out of jealousy or pathology, or are secretly into stealing sloppy seconds.

Learning how to navigate difficult friends of a girlfriend, without alienating anyone, being too rude, or making things uncomfortable is a necessary skill. Give a girlfriend and her friends some space. Avoid trash talking bad friends or being overly clingy to keep a girlfriend all to yourself, and stay consistent and awesome.

If a guy wants to keep a long term relationship with a lady, chances are most of a girlfriend's friends aren't
going away anytime soon.

​Listening Skills Still Rate

Men get a bad rep for not being active listeners or paying enough attention to what women are saying. Why not change this? When having a conversation, or a girlfriend just wants to share about what happened that day, or talk about something valuable, pay attention.

Make sure to be genuinely listening patiently and respectfully, because a woman might quiz a guy later about that time she was talking about something to see if you were listening, or playing pretend.
Men won't have to know all the juicy details, but at least be aware of the gist of what was said and why it was important.

According to an article in the Daily Mail, it turns out both men and women have listening problems.
Men can listen to their friends for fifteen minutes easily but may tune a girlfriend out after a mere six minutes. Women are also apt to listen and focus to their friends more than their boyfriends or significant other.

Despite this tidbit of info, making an effort to listen to a girlfriend is critical for relationship success.

In addition to being a good listener and paying attention, it pays for a boyfriend to have a good reaction time to words or events. If a guy is more aware and understands his girlfriend's unique needs and personality, he will be able to choose a better action to remedy something. Basically, don't offer a girlfriend a cliched solution, because it may prove you weren't listening when it mattered most.

Getting to learn more about what your girlfriend likes, dislikes, or daydreams about can help when selecting a romantic gift to show you are paying attention and care.

​​​Let Her Win An Argument

Man Woman Arguing

When dating, arguments will inevitably happen. However, how a guy handles and argument will either help or halt a relationship.

It might not be fun to lose an argument, or a guy might really make some good points that deserve being recognized. Let's face it, it when it comes to greasing the wheels of a relationship, it is better for a guy to give in and let his girlfriend win most arguments without protest.

There are certain types of arguments that a guy will never win. Even if a guy is right, he will lose, because winning an argument causes sore losers and may encourage irritating bragging rights.

If a girlfriend has a bad mood, let her blow off the steam. It is best to avoid fighting via texting or emails, and they have to be followed up with a real-life conversation for closure's sake.  Also, arguing for the sake of arguing, doing something competitive, or if a guy is unsure about how right they are is not worth it.

Most likely, arguments will lead to people sleeping alone, harboring resentment, and tiptoeing around who will be the bigger person first. Guys should learn some humility and not be pushy to win an argument all
the time, unless they like being single, or are being trodden upon in a relationship constantly.

Don't forget, in addition to letting a woman win an argument; it is helpful if a guy admits he overreacted, was wrong, or tries to patch things up.

Conversation And Connection

​To make a genuine and long-lasting connection with a girlfriend, it is critical that a guy understand the importance of good conversation. Learning to be in the present moment and focused during a
conversation is important, as a girlfriend will realize if a guy isn't making an effort.

Dating is a way to test out what is desired in a partner with the possibility of marriage, or even having kids in the future. It's no fun struggling to have a conversation with someone, who you were only talking to because they had a fetching appearance, and not much else going on.

During a conversation, connect to a girlfriend by touching her shoulder, looking into her eyes, or holding her hand. Make it a point to say "I love you," if the relationship has been going on seriously for a significant enough time.

In the early stages of a relationship, and throughout dating a woman, it is important for a guy to show and verbally tell his lady that he appreciates her. A good boyfriend gives compliments to their girlfriend, lets her know she is beautiful and showers her with affection.

Build a meaningful connection by making dinner plans, or take an impromptu getaway for the weekend when she has time off.

Also, do not forget the power and importance of laughter for health, connection, and sharing in a feel-good moment. Enjoy some stand-up comedy, watch funny films, and be able to laugh at each other to feel comfortable being yourself. It's no fun putting on airs and being stuffy and uptight all the time out of fear.

​​Those Little Things

Couple Holding Hands

Despite progress in society regarding gender roles, women are still often expected to take care of cooking, cleaning, and still manage to keep a job and look lovely all the time despite exhaustion.

One unspoken thing that will make you great boyfriend material and a potential future spouse is to do the following things, especially if co-habitating with a girlfriend.

  • ​Men should do the dishes without being asked, or offer to wash dishes
    after a meal
  • ​A guy should be able to create an amazing dish or two and surprise his
    girlfriend with an at-home date
  • ​Cleaning up around the apartment is a huge plus, it's better not wait
    for things to get bad

​If a guy is willing to do little things to make life a little easier, shows some thoughtfulness for his girlfriend's time and energy, he is more likely to melt her heart faster than with a bouquet of flowers.

Beyond the issues that many ladies complain about regarding men not washing dishes or cleaning, it important to keep up appearances with grooming, dressing well, and being a gentleman.

Yes, both men and women have their moments when they will dress down and let everything hang out, but it is best to try to spruce up and stay groomed more times than not. Take time learning a girlfriend's quirks and preferences, develop relationship skills, and enjoy the good moments between the ups and downs of life.

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