12 First Date Questions That’ll Tell You If There Should Be a Second Date

August 5, 2019 by  
Filed under Passion Into Your Relationship

We’ve all been there: the sweaty palms, the butterflies, the constant pressure to be the best possible version of yourself. There is no doubt about it; first dates are hard. Within just a few short hours, you’re expected to determine if someone you hardly know could potentially be a suitable partner. To ease the pressure, we have prepared twelve first date questions that can help you determine whether a second date is worth your time.

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As the infamous quote says, “You never get a second chance to make a great first impression.” Despite being a little cliche, these words are practically gospel in the world of dating. Making a great first impression is key on a first date. Your date may not remember the food they ate or all of the topics that were discussed that evening, but they most certainly will never forget the way you looked and the way you acted during your time together.

Whether a blessing or a curse, first impressions are lasting and can either make or break a relationship. If you are going out with someone, you are hoping might be a keeper, making a great first impression is imperative. Here are some tips to ensure you make the best first impression possible.

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FIRST DATE QUESTIONS

12 Make-Or-Break First Date Questions

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1. WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING FOR FUN?

While it might seem simple, this one question can help determine if your date is compatible with you and your lifestyle. If you are an outdoor enthusiast, but your date hates the great outdoors, it’s clear you two would not enjoy spending time together. Save both of you some time and cut things short at the end of the first date.

2. WHAT DO YOU DO FOR WORK AND DO YOU LIKE IT?

One of the most fundamental questions is one of the most important. Did your date answer by saying he or she is always stressed, that they put in 40+ hours just to make their boss even slightly happy? If they answered this way, now might not be the best time to start a relationship with this person. If they say they are always spending their time working, they certainly won’t have the time to be with you.

3. IF YOU HAD THREE WISHES, WHAT WOULD THEY BE?

First date questions shouldn’t all be serious and analytical. Throw in some fun questions to get to know your date. This is also a good test to see how conversation flows between you two.

4. WHAT’S YOUR FAMILY LIKE?

Listen to the way your date talks about their family. Are they describing a loving and happy family, or a contentious and miserable one? You can discover a lot about someone from how they talk about their family, and if you aren’t liking what you’re hearing, that might be a sign this person just isn’t the one.

5. WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR LIFE GOALS?

Is your date ambitious, a dreamer, someone who aspires for more in life? Out of all of these first date questions, this one is perfect for delving deeper than just the surface level. With this question, you can learn about what drives them. You will also be able to see what they have planned for the future.

They might not come right out and tell you, but you also might get some idea if they want the same things out of life as you. Do they want to get married, have children, live in the city, etc.? If none of the things they are saying are part of your life plan, it might be best to end things after the first date. Doing so could potentially save a lot of future heartbreak and resentment.

6. WHAT ARE THINGS YOU’VE CHECKED OFF YOUR BUCKET LIST?

While similar to the previous question, this question provides insight into your date’s past and what they’ve accomplished so far. Are they go-getters that have done some great things? If so, you’ve probably found someone who likes to keep life interesting and fun.

7. HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT…. (RELIGION, POLITICS, ETC.)

Politics and religion are not first date questions most people are readily willing to discuss. However, there are ways to ask this question delicately without provoking any heated or intense debate.

If there is one thing you feel strongly about or are an avid supporter of, it might not be a bad idea to bring this up in conversation. If your date disagrees, do not get upset or defensive, simply use their answer to help you determine if you can accept their beliefs or not. Don’t feel bad if there’s something you can’t look past; they probably feel the same way.  

8. HOW LONG AGO WAS YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP?

Just like the question about politics, nobody wants to talk about their previous relationships, especially with someone you are just starting to get to know. But just like the question about politics, you can find out if your date recently ended things with a long-term partner, meaning your date might not be ready yet to commit to someone new.

9. WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR PET PEEVES?

Does your date hate something you know you are guilty of? If it’s something you feel you can and will change for them, then there probably won’t be an issue. However, if their pet peeve is a big part of who you are and what you do, it wouldn’t be worth it to continue past the first date.

10. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE?

This is another question to see how similar you and your date’s tastes are. Not necessarily a deal-breaker, as many couples can make their difference in movie tastes work, but this question can help you plan for future date ideas. Did your date mention they would love to see that new action-thriller that just came out that you have been dying to see, as well? It looks like you found your second date idea!

11. DO YOU HAVE ANY PETS?

For many people, this question can certainly be a deal-breaker. A die-hard dog lover might find it difficult to find love with a die-hard cat-person. If you are one of these people that takes a firm side on this age-old debate, it might be best to find someone who shares the same opinion as you.

12. DID YOU ENJOY YOUR MEAL?

Maybe a simple question, but your date’s response to this question can be helpful in finding out more about them. Did they compliment the food and the restaurant, or were they quick to insult the waiter or the blandness of their entrée? Negativity is something nobody wants around.

Answering Honestly: Why It’s Important

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Even though you may want to use these first date questions to get to know your date, inevitably they will ask you many, if not all, of these same questions. As you prepare for your date, try to put yourself in their position; thinking of your own answers to these questions.

As you do this exercise, remember another classic cliche, “honesty is the best policy.” Although the temptation to make yourself seem like the most exciting person on this planet can be appealing, just stay true to yourself. Always answer these questions, and any others your date might ask you, with complete and utter honesty.

First dates are meant to be a time to get to know one another, to determine if there’s any spark that could blossom into something lasting. Think about how you would feel if you knew your date was lying just to impress you. While it might seem flattering at first, you would soon realize that you know nothing about this person and that you might not be as compatible as you originally believed. Do yourself, and your date, a favor by answering these first date questions honestly.

Conclusion

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Finding your perfect match can take time, which also can, unfortunately, mean a lot of first dates. The good news is that figuring out compatibility can be made much easier by asking the right first date questions. These twelve questions are perfect to help you get to know your date. By the end of the first date, you’ll know without a doubt if this person is worth seeing again, and with all of their answers, you’ll even be able to plan the perfect second date.

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