15 Best Tinder Openers: Starter Tips

February 1, 2019 by  
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Are you feeling frustrated by the world of dating? This is a common experience that all single people struggle with—the confusion of how to bridge the gap between a casual interaction and a flirtatious one and how to determine the best Tinder openers. Tinder is one of the most common ways that people find dating partner these days, but many people have no idea how to navigate the dating world, much less the intricacies of Tinder.

Many single people feel they are constantly "putting themselves out there" only to be rejected and ignored, which lowers their self-esteem and hope of finding a partner. Since it can be difficult to know what the best tinder openers are, we've collected data to figure out the best ways to start and maintain a Tinder conversation.


What the Data Says about Matching on Tinder

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The data about Tinder matching reflects the experiences of tinder users—men and women have very different strategies, which leads to miscommunication and frustration.

USER INTENTIONS

A user's technique for match selection and messaging depends on his or her intentions. A person looking for love and commitment will have a drastically different style than the person looking for a one-night stand.

DIFFERENT STRATEGIES

One of the greatest causes for confusion and dissatisfaction of Tinder users is the variety of strategies being used. Data shows that 35% of men casually like all profiles, while 0% of women do so. Additionally, almost all women are shown to like only profiles of people they are attracted to, while about 30% of men like profiles they are not attracted to. This data reflects the largest difference in usage patterns of males and females—men swipe right much more frequently with lower selectivity, and most women only swipe for profiles of men who they are truly interested in.

HOW MEN AND WOMEN MESSAGE

Once the first challenge of Tinder—actually finding a match—has been completed, users have to tackle the next barrier: the first message. Men are typically the ones who initiate a conversation on Tinder, so they often feel the most pressure when trying to decide how to break the ice. Another difference in the messaging patterns of men and women is that women message a higher percentage of their matches than men do. Studies show that women are three times as likely to message a match than a man is because of their high selectivity.

MORE (AND BETTER) PICTURES, MORE MATCHES

A picture tells a thousand words! Your pictures are by far the most important part of your profile, so choose the ones that best represent who you are and show you looking your best. Tinder automatically filters profiles, showing the most popular profiles to those who get the most likes on their pictures. First impressions are almost completely based on looks, so to increase your number of matches, choose your most flattering and interesting pictures.

NO BIO, SHORT BIO, OR LONG BIO

Your bio is also incredibly important as it is your chance to tell potential matches about your interests and personality. Profiles with bios are shown to receive four times as many matches as those with no bio. If you have no bio, it often sends the message that you aren't trying very hard to find a match; it can come across as boring and disinterested. Having a bio also makes connections easier, because if another user sees that you share a common interest, he or she will be much more likely to swipe right.

Another question that tinder users struggle with is how long to make their bio. A bio that is too long can come across as overbearing—no one wants to read ten lines just to figure out what you like. The best bios give other users just a taste of how cool and interesting you are, intriguing them enough that a swipe to the right is inevitable. The most successful bios are short bios that explain the main points of who you are with a little humor sprinkled in.

Conversation Starter Tips

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The hardest part for many Tinder users is starting a conversation. It can be difficult to express yourself over text, and the opening line is often a high-pressure situation. The opening line is your only chance to engage the cutie you just matched with. When you combine your anxiety with confusion about what others find attractive, this combination can cause stress and ultimately lead to some awful pick-up lines. To help you avoid being overwhelmed by this dilemma, we have compiled a few simple conversation tips.

The best tinder openers are funny, genuine, and likely to elicit a response. It is important that your first message doesn't seem like you copy-pasted it to every match, as this will make you seem uninvested and unoriginal. Be yourself and create a connection, but at the same time keep the tone light and funny. Using these tips will transform a mediocre opening line into a catchy conversation starter.

BE INTRIGUING

If you want to spark a conversation, you need to draw in your match, making him or her curious about what you might say next. Ask a unique question or mention one of your common interests, giving a reason to respond. Initiating a conversation with a boring "hey" or "what's up" will get you nowhere, as it implies that you are not invested in the conversation and therefore not looking for a real connection. To be successful on Tinder, use an opening line that is creative and hard to ignore.

BE FUNNY

97% of single women believe that a sense of humor is just as attractive as good looks. Being funny is a great way to keep dating fun and make your match look forward to your messages. As long as you're not overly cheesy, humor is always a good thing when trying to attract a date. This is one of the best ways to stand out and increase your number of replies.

HIGHLIGHT YOUR PERSONALITY

The best Tinder openers are funny, engaging, and personal to you, so the best way to stand out from your competitors is to let your personality shine through! Keep in mind that whoever you are messaging is probably receiving an outpouring of introductions daily, and he or she is likely to ignore some of these. To spark interest and create a real connection, be genuine and don't hide who you are. After all, you wouldn't want someone to like who you're trying to be rather than who you really are.

BE POLITE

Show your matches that chivalry is not dead! Despite the conflicting messages you might receive from songs and movies, being the "nice guy" is not a bad thing. Rather than opting for a forward and potentially offensive introduction, be polite and respectful when making conversation on Tinder. Stick to funny pick-up lines rather than lewd ones and don't introduce overly sexual undertones unless they happen naturally.

FOCUS ON YOUR COMMON INTERESTS

People are more interested in potential partners if they feel that they have something in common, as this usually leads to a more successful relationship. The best Tinder openers engage potential matches on a personal level, using common interests to establish a genuine connection. Use the information in your match's bio or pictures to find a common interest and build your conversation off of it. This is the best way to stand out from other matches and make your potential new date feel comfortable.

BE PERSISTENT, BUT PATIENT

A common mistake on Tinder is expecting your matches to respond instantaneously and then getting upset when your match ignores you. We recommend users to be patient and let your match respond in her or his own time—no one enjoys being rushed. However, if you have waited an adequate amount of time, it doesn't hurt to send a tasteful second message. Swallow your pride and remind your match of your existence—it might encourage a response and result in a conversation!

USE GIFS

If you're unsure how to proceed after making a match, you can never go wrong with a GIF. Some of the best Tinder openers involve the use of GIFs, as they are perfect for keeping the tone light and bringing a smile. Starting a conversation with a GIF has been shown to make your match 30% more likely to respond, creating more opportunity to move from the abstract zone of Tinder to a more intimate in-person date. Make sure to include an opening line to go along with your GIF, as you want to reflect your own personality as well.

AGE CONSIDERATIONS

Before sending your first message, consider who you're trying to attract. Age is one of the most important things to consider when formulating your message, as women of different ages are looking for different things, and a 20-something will have a very different response from an experienced 40-something. Data shows that women in their teens and early 20's are attracted by humor and novelty. On the other hand, women in their late 20s and above will more likely respond if you create a personal connection.

The Best Tinder Openers

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Taking all of these tips into account, we have compiled fifteen of the best Tinder openers. We wouldn't advise using these lines verbatim, just in case your new crush has seen them too, but using them as your inspiration and adding your own flair is a great way to make your conversation a success!

  • 1
    "Titanic. That's my icebreaker. What's up?"
  • 2
    "*Some cheesy pickup line* Blah blah blah. Tinder, Tinder, Tinder. Haha, a joke here, an inappropriate message there. Can I have your number?"
  • 3
    "I want this to work, but our only common interest is Kim K. Where do we go from here?"
  • 4
    "I hope you're cool with telling people we met volunteering at an old folks' home."
  • 5
    "Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or one hundred duck-sized horses?"
  • 6
    "Your Sunday breakfast personality is __? A) Waffles & pancakes, slowly savored. B) Apple & granola bar on the run. C) Aggressive mimosas. D) Sleeping until lunch. 
  • 7
    "I see we both enjoy skiing. Are you more the kind of girl who makes the black diamond slopes look easy or the bunny slope look hard? (No judgment either way)"
  • 8
    "You declare a three-day weekend. Are you heading for the mountains, the beach, or some ancient ruins?"
  • 9
    "I hope you like cheesy pick-up lines because if you were a fruit, you'd be a fineapple."
  • 10
     "Do you want me to hit you with a corny pick-up line or can we skip that?"
  • 11
    "Quick—The Notebook or Sleepless in Seattle?!" 
  • 12
    "Phew! I almost swiped left and had a heart attack! Saved at the last minute!"
  • 13
    "81 miles away! How can you breathe up there?! Do you have a parachute? Will you bring me moon rocks?!"
  • 14
    "Do you like Mexican food? I want to wrap you in my arms and make you my bae-ritto."
  • 15
    "Does this mean we're exclusive? :D"

These pick-up lines range from cheesy to sarcastic to ridiculous, but they are all funny, interesting, and successful in starting conversations and leading to dates. Some of them, for example, 6, 7, and 8, start conversations about hobbies or activities, which is a great way to spark immediate interest and quickly move past the small talk. Others, like 5 and 13, are random and hilarious and will help you easily stand out from the rest. These have been proven to be some of the best tinder openers and using them as your motivation should give your Tinder game a head start.

Conclusion

Understanding the ins and outs of the online dating world can be a struggle for the most experienced smooth-talker, but using the advice we've collected from dating professionals and research, you should be able to increase your number of dates and ultimately find what you're looking for. Now you know how to charm your matches get swiping!


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